The moment we meet a person or a bunch of people we automatically place him/her or them in a category. People have always done that and still are because it is in our nature to be selective. Whether a person is black or white, young or old, male or female, formal or informal we analyze them  in order to see if they fit among the persons we like, admire, love or among the persons we dislike or even hate. Those details are the base of establishing relationships in society. The criterion “formal or informal” is also important in realizing those connections. The question is - should we be elegant, polite, reserved and distant all the time or should we be more open to each other and stop creating barriers between us and others ?
        I think that we should be less formal and more open to each other for a number of reasons.
        Firstly, we live in a society in which we depend on each other, coexist. In order to live a happy and comfortable life we need to get our heads out of our asses and realize that it is more important to get along with each other and accept each other instead of showing that we are more elegant, polite or smart. The people who do that take a chance in appearing arrogant, flatter or even looking stupid by over appreciating themselves.
        Secondly, everyone tends to like or get attached to a person who is friendly, open, selfless and less formal. We tend to do that because we get the masks off only when we are surrounded by people who accept us for who we are, who make us feel comfortable with ourselves. When a person is formal sends a message that, in a way, you’ll somehow be punished or judged for the slightest mistake that you will make.
        Admittedly, there are some situations that require formality, like honoring a person’s requests or simply obeying rules. However, we should keep in mind that we are not that different from each other and that formality just tells us the opposite.
        All things considered, as long as we live in a society where we all need each other and where formality isn't always requested, we should be less formal and more open to informality in order to live a fulfilling life.

Last edited by simonsaysfsociety (2017-10-26 18:54:20)